Are Friends Happy Being With You?

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We all have different style of talking, responding, smiling, laughing and communicating. Some of us are a comfort for others. We enjoy being with some people and we don’t enjoy some people. What is the difference between these persons? Why one persons presence enlivens the gathering an other person dulls it? What are the qualities needed to make one self socially popular?

Smile -The very first quality is smile. When we see some body smiling, we feel pleased. And if the smile is without any malice it is more enchanting. Keep smiling. Keep your problems with yourself and keep your face smiling.

Listening - when we don’t speak but only listen, people love us. All of us have our own problems and need somebody to listen to us. Become a good listener. Ask open ended question such as - and after that? Why? And so on. That will encourage the speaker to pour out all to you.

Have something funny to say - There is enough pain in the world. Bring in some laughter. Have a collection of jokes and make your friends laugh. The more they laugh, the more they will enjoy your company.

Appreciate - have a word of appreciation for everyone. You can appreciate some body clothes, or shoes or what ever. Appreciate. Make friends feel good.

To be friendly and to be charming is not an art. It can be easily developed by all of us. The only need is to pay less attention to our self and more to others. Make friends happy and they will love your presence. Make your presence the life of any gathering. Success is yours.

Are You A Good Roommate Or You Are The Bad One? Time To Find Out!

Ang pamumuhay kasama ang ibang tao ay maaaring maging masaya ngunit hindi maiiwasang may mga  paguugali ang ibang tao na hindi kanais nais para sa atin. Tignan ang mga halimbawa sa ibaba na nakakabuwiset na pag uugali ng mga roomates natin o maaaring isa ka sa kanila.


1. You host had a fantastic party the night before, now you just wait for the place to miraculously clean itself.

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2.You smoke in your roomies room even though he or she is a non-smoker.


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3. Somehow your dirty clothes and your personal mess find its way to your roommate’s side of the room.
 
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4. You have your friends over all the time, all day every day.
 
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5. Your roommate’s got an exam tomorrow! Who cares? Let’s blast that music.

 

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6. You’ve got your girl/boyfriend over all the time; and the roomie is getting the couch tonight… again.
 
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7. The trash has been lying there for days without you even noticing it, till your roommate mentions it, of course.





8. Borrow money for groceries; come back with loads of alcohol.
 
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9. You’re in the habit of slamming doors all the time, be it the room or the toilet door.

 

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10. You set your alarm yet wake two hours later, waking up your flat mate with your snooze button marathon.
 
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11. Digging into his/her toiletries is a regular thing, be it for soap, toothpaste or make up.


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12. You leave your bunky choking in the morning on your perfume.

 
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13. It’s freezing outside but you’re in the habit of blasting the AC or the fan.

 
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14. You leave enough hair in the bathroom to make a wig after your shower.
 
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15. You have no clue where the grocery shop is, you’ll even starve till a meal is fixed for you by your flat mate.
 
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16. You just happen to have been wearing your roommate’s best T-shirts and jeans.
 
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17. You just love loud sex in the living room, imprisoning your roomie in his/her room for want of avoiding an awkward moment.
 


18. You’re gaming and no one gets the Tv till you are done with that level, problem is you suck and hence no one gets the Tv for days.

 
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19. You eat cereal louder than a camel, and slurp with every sip.

 

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20. You keep forgetting your keys, screwing up your pal’s date to get you into the house.
 
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Am I In Love? Signs That Will Tell You Are On The Right Track

It is love that initiated the union between a woman and a man when they finally decided to get married. Before they went through this very important decision of their lives, everything seemed to be on a reverie, with all the sweetness and the goodness  that any couple could experience.

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When the couple gets married, it is that same love that would keep them together, their bond stronger than ever, and their life transformed from a reverie to pure realism.

The love that keeps two people together is now an issue. This is because some people no longer believe that love really exists on its through sense of the word because of the many divorce cases that the society is facing right now.

In the U.S. alone, nearly 9,032,100 of the males and 12,326,369 of the female population were said to be divorced from their partners. This is according to the 2000+ marital statistical report of the Divorce Peers in Michigan.

With that fact, it goes to show that many people are inclined to get married without realizing the true sense of being in love.

Hence, reality goes back to the clear signs of love. The reason why many people fail in their relationships is based from the fact that they thought that they were in love but the truth is that they never were.

Therefore, for those who wish to put a clear distinction between love and infatuation, in which, other people thought they are the same, here is a list of the real signs of true love.

1. You suddenly become interested with the things that you used to detest.

A person can claim he is in love if he is able to accept that things the he used to look down on. This is when everything seems so positive and that there is nothing close that could ruin what you have for the person you love.

However, this does not happen on an instant. This has to go into a process wherein you still hate to do what you despise even if you are already in a relationship. But as soon as you learned to love, everything will change. Things will seem brighter and every challenge seems easy to bear.

2. You learn to value her 

To give and to accept something of value are two different things. If you are really in love, it is easier for you to feel that you really value the person and not just because you wanted to stay and sacrifice everything for that person.

Love will always want to find time and ways how to make her or his partner happy. For a great lover, her or his priority is on how to make her or his partner happy, and that this must be above her or his personal feelings.

3. You are in love if you can, with eyes open wide, accept the person that you love no matter what or who he is.

To feel loved is enough guarantee that you are accepted because you are you and not because of anything else that concerns you.
If you are really in love with the person that you really like, you can act or perform freely without the feeling of being awkward with the situation.

4. You are in love if you understand the person that you care for the most.

To feel loved, you must also feel how you are being understood by men and how each love should be able to give you the free will to choose what is wrong or right

You are in love if you are willing to accept whatever it is with the other person and not on what and who the person is. You will be able to consider his thoughts and feeling even if somehow you disagree with what he believes in. And if you are being loved in the true sense of the word, you know that he will do the same thing to you.

5. You are in love if you know that you really care lot for that very special person

True love serves as a guarantee that the person whom you love will stay true to you, no matter what. You are really in love if you know that you are willing to sacrifice you life just to save your partner.

You are in love if you know that in spite of your partner’s flaws and wrongdoings, you will never embarrass him in front of many people. Instead, you will talk to him seriously and ask him what went wrong.

Indeed, love can be too confusing for people who do not know what it really means. Others may regard infatuation or physical attraction as love already.

The point here is that in order to know that you are really in love is to love him beyond the physical attraction, lust, and attachment. These are the three stages of love. Hence, if you were able to surpass these stages, it really must be love.

A Friend In Need

They say, "A friend in need, is a friend indeed."  But what happens when that friend begins to take advantage?

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Here’s the scenario: Julie, a hardworking secretary, lent money to her good friend Ray; $1300 to be exact. Ray had just moved to a new town and claimed that he needed two new suits: one for an upcoming wedding and one to wear on job interviews. Ray lived in a beautiful penthouse. He had a degree in Computer Science and was accustomed to the finer things in life – designer labels, frequent travel, and spa week-ends. When Ray told Julie he would repay her and signed a paper promising to do so, Julie didn’t think anything of it. 

A couple of weeks later, Ray tried to hit Julie up for more money; this time to furnish his new home. When she told him that she wouldn’t be able to help him out this time, he accused her of being cold and hung up the phone on her. Julie suddenly realized that she was being taken advantage of. Her hurt quickly turned to rage. She wanted to know how someone could be so self-serving and inconsiderate. If Julie had been weak enough to lend Ray another several hundred dollars for furniture, how could he sleep at night knowing that she had expenses of her own to look after?

We as women have an innate desire to nurture whenever possible. Many of us have learned the hard way we must always keep our guard up – spot when we may be being misled or taken advantage of. It is a common belief that a woman who is eager to lend money to a man, suffers from nativity, desperation, or poor self-esteem. But in this case it was a loan not a gift, and a friendship not a romantic relationship.

We all know how risky it is to lend money to a friend of either sex. Some of us decide to give the lendee the benefit of the doubt because we think we know and trust them. Some of us are vigilant enough to take precautions to make the loan legally binding. The bottom line is that we need to stop stereo-typing and pointing fingers at a woman who would lend a man money. We need to take a closer look at the character of anyone who would try to take advantage of a friend’s generosity.

Along with her respect for him, Julie also lost all compassion for Ray and their so-called friendship deteriorated.? The fact of the matter is that no one can respect a man who fails to respect others. When he performs actions that are self-serving and manipulative, his sincerity, his honor, his integrity, are all called into question.

They say,"It's not what we eat but what we digest that makes us strong; not what we gain but what we save that makes us rich; not what we read but what we remember that makes us learned; and not what we profess but what we practice that gives us integrity."